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    22
    Mar

    tkmbnd:

    While doing research for work, I stumbled on this site. Though the article is clearly meant to be a parody to illustrate the “false academic” scholarship of feminism, I fear the comments are 100 percent grade-A real misogyny. Among the gems espoused in the comments:

    “regardless of whether or not most women enjoy being raped, the crime itself is pretty much trivial.”

    And

    “One thing we have to not be ashamed to start pointing out is that rape (in and of itself) is no big deal.
    If there’s violence involved – then that’s violence. But the act of having intercourse with someone whom you didn’t previously desire is really not that huge a deal.
    Now SYSTEMATIC rape, like the men in prison get-that is not trivial.”

    And

    “The genesis of the ‘rape culture’ hoax is the female rape fantasy.”

    And the especially creepy

    “Must be hot for rape culture true believers that have rape fantasies, engaging in the fantasy that their fantasy could be fulfilled at any give moment, anywhere. At college, at home, in the parking lot …. mostly by people that they already know….
    “hmmm wonder if its going to be …, or maybe its going to be, what if its …”

    Go ahead. Read the comments. Notice the complete ignorance of — or downright mocking of — the notion of consent. Notice the way rape is held up as a fiction invented by histrionic women wracked with guilt over their own desire for rape. Notice how the blame for rape shifts instantly from rapist to victim.

    Then go read the coverage of the Steubenville rape trial.

    Then tell me again how rape culture doesn’t exist.

  2. 1
    22
    Jan

    My Inner Child

         I think most of us have an inner child. I think I have several inner children. The one that frequently comes out is my inner 12yo. The one who laughs at inappropriate times and at anything that might vaguely resemble a sexual reference. Some of you know this inner child well! 

         But the one who wants to come out lately is my inner 2yo. She likes to throw tantrums. “It’s not fair!” “I didn’t ask for this!” “I don’t wanna!” “You can’t make me!”. Some days I just want to throw a tantrum. Scream and yell. “Why me?!?”. I was enjoying life perfectly fine until my #EDS, Ehlers Danlos Syndrome, reared it’s ugly head! I want my life back! Especially now that it looks like I may never be able to do belly dancing again. Sometimes I quiet that inner 2yo and forcibly hold her down and go on with my life with a smile on my face. Sometimes she can’t be quieted. So I throw that tantrum. I scream at the top of my lungs. I cry. I beg for mercy. I get it out of my system. Then I give my inner 2yo some chocolate and she’s happy again. 

    But I always know she’ll be back. When the next flare hits, maybe. Maybe out of the blue when I can’t do something I used to do, like walk around the mall. She’ll be back, you can count on that. She’s restless. Itching for trouble.

    I think my inner 12yo is more fun! 

    Until next time… It Is What It Is #IIWII

    Suzanne

  3. 16
    Jan

    Gamer Girl

    I’m not considered your typical gamer girl. Mostly because the games I play are on my phone and Kindle Fire. Why not? They’re games just like Skyrim, Halo, etc., there are goals, quest, prizes, and achievements. I’ve recently started playing Skyrim and Assassins Creed III, however my game time is limited due to the state of my hands thanks to osteoarthritis and EDS, Ehlers Danlos Syndrome.

    I prefer games on my Kindle and phone because I can use a stylus, which is much easier on my hands than holding a controller. So why are simulation games like farming, restaurant, and the like not considered part of a “gamers” repertoire? I spend more time and money on those games then most people do on what are considered gamers games.

    Oh well, I guess I’m now officially considered a gamer girl now that I play Skyrim and Assassins Creed III!

    Till next time!

    Suzanne

  4. 12
    16
    Jan
    fmlkegg: Dear Dr. Who fans… have you seen this over at thinkgeek? It’s a Tardis play tent. Play. Tent. You need one. Yes YOU.

    fmlkegg:

    Dear Dr. Who fans… have you seen this over at thinkgeek?

    It’s a Tardis play tent.

    Play. Tent.

    You need one. Yes YOU.

  5. 26
    4
    Jan

    felinefaytale:

    Remember that little 2% Social Security discount you have had for the last two years? Yeah, that went away - it was only temporary. The Social Security tax rate is 6.2% of eligible income (not 4.2%). BTW before you go complaining about this tax ‘hike’, your employer never got that discount - they…

  6. 6
    1
    Jan

    New Year ~ Same Old Me

    Much like last year I’m at home on New Years Eve this year. I used to go out and party. Fancy dress, makeup, jewelry, new shoes, the whole nine yards. Hard to believe. I still have trouble believing it.

       Today marks my one year anniversary of being Chronically At Home. Not much has changed. I’ve gotten some projects accomplished, others I’m still working on. I’ve had to drop meds and start new meds. New pain mixed with old pain. Weight lost and then gained back past my starting weight. I don’t set New Years Resolutions, I know better than to trust my body. I just attempt to live each day as best I can. Whether that means my walking with a cane or or not. And of course my cane is Chronically Awesome too! It’s purple with a paisley pattern. Why should my walking stick not have it’s own personality? 

         This blog post is for a project. The Chronically Awesome project. What does being Chronically Awesome mean to me? What does it mean to anyone? Being Chronically Awesome means different things to different people.

          For me, being Chronically Awesome means doing the impossible. While I was making doll clothes for my 10yo for Christmas I frequently heard “How can you do that with your bad hands and pain?”. I was able to do it because I enjoyed the project and sewing was a welcome distraction from my everyday pain. I may have also found a new hobby I’m quite good at as several people have asked if I sell my doll clothes! The look on my 10yo’s face when she opened the trunk of handmade doll clothes was well worth the extra pain they may have cost me.

         Just because I’m Chronically Ill doesn’t mean I can’t still do stuff. Just means it may take me longer and I may do things in small doses. Like the doll clothes, I may have only sewed for a few hours a day but it was enough. I sometimes went days without sewing. Being Chronically Awesome means knowing your limits and listening to your body. Pushing yourself will get you nowhere fast, and may even slow you down for days.

    As I look to the New Year I hope that it is better than the last. I hope that science keeps making advances that may help me or those like me in the future. I hope for health for all. My last hope for all is Wisdom. Wisdom to know when to stop and Wisdom to know when to keep going. May we all know peace, health, and wisdom in the coming year.

    Happy New Year my friends. I bid thee well until next time!

    Suzanne

    @MeriLizzie

  7. 105973
    19
    Dec
    (I am working the register over Christmas.)
    Me: “Find everything today?”
    Customer: “Yup.”
    (Note: she is silent through the transaction, which includes a gift card.)
    Me: “How much would you like on this?”
    Customer: “Oh, sorry. Can I have $150?”
    Me: “No problem.”
    Customer: *after paying* “Can you do me a favor?” *she hands me the gift card* “The next customer you see that you think could use this, could you give it to them?”
    Me: *stunned* “…Of course!”
    (After a minute another customer comes up, a visibly upset young woman.)
    Me: “Hi! How are you?”
    Customer #2: “I’m okay, thanks.”
    (Clearly she is not ok, but she is trying very hard to be pleasant. She is getting very basic items: milk, bread, eggs, etc. Nothing very festive.)
    Me: “So your total comes out to $0.00.”
    Customer: “What?”
    Me: “The person before you gave me a $150 gift card to use for the next person I thought could use it. You look like you’re having a rough day, so here are your groceries, and there’s about $130 left on this card.”
    (The customer just started crying. Once she could, she thanked me about 100 times. Made my whole Christmas season.)
  8. 62897
    11
    Dec

    faithaclese:

    In Victorian times they invented a tea cup to prevent your moustache from getting wet.

    This is single handedly the greatest thing I’ve ever seen.

    (Source: libbywho, via strixus)

  9. 26
    Nov
    My Sim is taking a nap! Check out my picture from The Sims FreePlay http://eamobile.com/thesimsfreeplay

    My Sim is taking a nap! Check out my picture from The Sims FreePlay http://eamobile.com/thesimsfreeplay

  10. 2
    19
    Nov
    Here are the jamma pants. I used a seam ripper to take the bow off the front. I will use the bow on the front of the doll shirt. Pinned it to my cardboard cutting board to keep it from coming undone!

    Here are the jamma pants. I used a seam ripper to take the bow off the front. I will use the bow on the front of the doll shirt. Pinned it to my cardboard cutting board to keep it from coming undone!

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